I really pondered this idea and asked myself what are my weaknesses? The last time someone asked me about my weaknesses was during a job interview. I don’t think I did a great job answering the question that day either. After a couple of days I couldn’t make a clear choice so I found this really cool personality quiz that narrows down strengths/weaknesses. Here’s the quiz I took: http://www.peterursbender.com/quiz/swtable.html
This helped me focus or narrow my list down to concrete weaknesses that a manipulator could use to hurt me if they saw fit to do so. This brought me to my next question, how do I correct my weaknesses so they could never be used against me? I mean I could just stop being weak or not act weak in any area, couldn’t I? After many minutes of reflection I decided that was unrealistic. I can’t be perfect…heck, I don’t know what perfect even looks like.
There’s a balance to the universe, yin and yang, circle of life, etc. We all have strengths but some of them will be followed by a weakness. For example I am very unrealistic with myself and others when it comes to goals, expectations, behaviors, and emotions. It took a long time to discover this about myself but when I did I realized that it came from a very loving place in my soul. I’m very loyal and a big ideas kinda girl, so those strengths leave with me that pesky weakness of unrealistic expectations.
However, I look at it as a cool weakness. It definitely helps me get things done, things I never dreamed I could accomplish and has helped me see the ones who love me. I’m not perfect and have flaws but they are a part of me. This page is titled: “Let it Bees, Natural Weaknesses”.
I used water soluble crayons, Dina Wakley stencil MDS44239 (Stenciled Queenie), bee stamps, gouache, sharpie and washi tape.
A red flag is a symbolic warning sign that can be seen flying around when meeting someone new or in a new situation. There are some universal red flags like lying, cheating, or disagreeable behaviors. Red flags could also be made by you for you to help avoid making the same mistakes twice. For example I had a friend who I think literally hated everyone. She was generally in a bad mood 90% of the time, had very little friends, never got any of the promotions at work she’d put in for, and was very jealous. That’s just a few red flags; these might not be a warning for you personally, but for me are now deal breakers. After the friendship ended I felt sad because I did care for her, but after a period of time I felt better and happier. So now those behaviors are my red flags to move on quickly or avoid them as much as possible.
Sometimes it’s hard to see warning signs when you instantly connect with someone. My journal page is to remind myself not to ignore warning signs from others and to persue relationships that enrich my life.
I normally don’t use bold imagery in my pages but I wanted to try a different approach. I really like Teesha Moore’s work and how she uses bold images, doodles, words, and wild designs. So I gave it a shot and will have to say that I enjoyed my first attempt. I will later add in my personal red flags in her hair.
I did discover a new technique. I used gesso over the hair to hide the edge of the paper which didn’t quite to the trick…eh. After it dried I took a crayola marker and colored it in with violet. It stayed wet which allowed me to use my fingers to smear the rest onto unpainted areas leaving no marker streaks.
I also think I want to try smaller images. Her face covered up too much of my page but this was good for practice. Thanks for reading and create something amazing!
I host an art journaling group called G27 Journal Junkies. I read this online article about manipulators and thought it would be a great theme to explore in our art journaling group. I’ll list the article below if you would like to read it as well.
Disclaimer: I am not a therapist or trying to be in our art group. The act of creating art is therapy and that is the purpose of our group.
After reading the article I wanted to remember your, mine…our fundamental rights, as listed in Psychology Today magazine:
You have the right to be treated with respect.
You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants.
You have the right to set your own priorities.
You have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty.
You have the right to get what you pay for.
You have the right to have opinions different than others.
You have the right to take care of and protect yourself from being threatened physically, mentally or emotionally.
You have the right to create your own happy and healthy life.
After dealing with manipulators in my life it took me a long time to realize and make these boundaries. So I made a journal page pictured above to remind myself of my rights. Thanks for taking a look.